I feel your pain and hope you're feeling better! The 3 am wake-up is something I've made friends with - it's a three-way friendship: menopause, insomnia, and me. Thanks, too, for the afterthought heel link; I'm stuck on mosaic knitting right now but will visit your blog post later. I've knit an afterthought heel before on a Christmas stocking but never thought to use it on an actual sock.
It’s a great skill to add to your arsenal. Nothing worse than being stuck on a train and accidentally knitting past the point of the heel - no one likes to rip back a perfectly good sock after all.
That happens to me sometimes, and I’ve learned not to berate myself for not having had enough sleep but just to go with it, so your duvet day will be so worth it! I’m looking forward to the book swap - a lovely idea and part of what prompted me to sign up as paid…
I haven't yet had the joy of menopause, but I often have mini-panic attacks at work at around 3am (I'm a night shift worker). Generally either about my death ("are the pins and needles I'm currently having in my arm because I slept funny, or because I have early motor neurone disease") or about my older dog dying and feeling rigid with panic that I spend too much time looking at my phone and not enough time with him. It's horrible and I definitely feel your pain 🫂
In other news though - the Grieshaverse - sell the concept to me?! I've tried once and didn't get into them, but clearly you enjoy them so maybe I should try again?!
I actually read the books first and then got into the Netflix show. The two a very different though - the show sort of condenses a couple of the books together which might make things a bit confusing. My son didn’t like the books at first and got into it via the show 🤣
Oh gosh, I hear you on the small hours panic attacks. Mine came this morning at about 2:30, and sent me into such a flat spin I had to get up and go downstairs, and do something for an hour and a half. I'm in what is laughingly known as a 'career pivot', which means I have no income at the moment, so the panic can really get its claws into me.
I'm glad you had a good duvet day! It's good to know what our recovery needs are.
Thank you! Things are never as bad as they seem in the dead of night!
If my Garmin is anything to go by, my heart rate spikes just before one of these episodes, so I wake up with my brain confused as to why my body is panicking, and it just lands on whatever is front-of-mind and decides that it's a Major Disaster. Honestly, it could be anything, including relitigating decades-old embarrassments or imaging the nightmare of what would happen if my husband died. (My husband is very fit and not at any elevated risk of dying.)
From this, I can only conclude that brains and bodies are very stupid.
I returned from a shortish vacation late on Wednesday night to very cold weather and a dusting of snow. Thursday morning I expected to jump
Out of bed and begin a long list of chores I’ve been needing to tackle ~ however my body felt slow cold and sluggish so I gifted myself a day in bed! It did wonders for my cold exhausted body, so I’m following suit one more day and just laying low and giving my mind & body what it needs!
I think you get to an age when you have to listen to what your body is telling you. I worked in a school and every holiday I thought I would get up early and do this that and the other. No my body said you will sleep in and have a slow day. Now been retired 5 years and last week it did again so obviously I'd done too much that week. The Quiet ADHD club is very interesting. I've been wondering about myself lately. Some of the points rang true with me. The wanting to please people but being let down. It doesn't matter what I do it doesn't seem enough. The friend that comes to stay and drinks white wine wants cider. Next time you buy cider. No! They want white wine. Another wants salads. You buy salads and they want vegetables. Yes I get resentful and don't look forward to having people stay. I put it down to past experiences but maybe not!
I am so sorry Louise, the lunch can be rearranged maybe even better than ever 😁.
My daughter Sarah, was ace at duvet days, she knew when she had had enough and holed up. Her & her husband even developed there Christmas duvet days into a fine art. It is one of my lovely memories of her.
Ebby will be getting a new friend but can enjoy some spoiling from you and vice versa. Get better soon ❤️❤️
A 3am panic attack is utterly horrible and I'm very glad you've cancelled plans to have a duvet day and take care of yourself. Every time I see lovely Emily post about spending ten minutes doing something for herself I do a happy jig inside – you know how I love the power of ten minutes! And thank you SO much for sharing the Quiet ADHD Club, I'm so happy with the first week. I visited my inner wise woman in my morning meditation today and she told me 'You're right where you're supposed to be, doing exactly what you're supposed to be doing.' I'd say that goes for you under the duvet today too x
What’s made me smile: making progress on my Saltaire scarf, a foggy dog walk (quiet and peaceful), a simple garden centre lunch with my hubby and visitors soon to arrive for the weekend.
I suffer from migraines, fortunately less so in more recent years since I’ve retired. I have found that if I get overtired, stressed, or feel out of sorts its
indicating I need a duvet day and can sometimes prevent a full blown migraine. Ebby will enjoy snuggling with you.
Ugh those 3am wake ups are awful. Glad you were able to make a quiet day of it. I like the idea that the universe has other plans to allow me to relax when I have those horrible night sleeps!
I feel your pain and hope you're feeling better! The 3 am wake-up is something I've made friends with - it's a three-way friendship: menopause, insomnia, and me. Thanks, too, for the afterthought heel link; I'm stuck on mosaic knitting right now but will visit your blog post later. I've knit an afterthought heel before on a Christmas stocking but never thought to use it on an actual sock.
It’s a great skill to add to your arsenal. Nothing worse than being stuck on a train and accidentally knitting past the point of the heel - no one likes to rip back a perfectly good sock after all.
That happens to me sometimes, and I’ve learned not to berate myself for not having had enough sleep but just to go with it, so your duvet day will be so worth it! I’m looking forward to the book swap - a lovely idea and part of what prompted me to sign up as paid…
Oh fantastic - I’ll have an email coming out shortly with more details.
I haven't yet had the joy of menopause, but I often have mini-panic attacks at work at around 3am (I'm a night shift worker). Generally either about my death ("are the pins and needles I'm currently having in my arm because I slept funny, or because I have early motor neurone disease") or about my older dog dying and feeling rigid with panic that I spend too much time looking at my phone and not enough time with him. It's horrible and I definitely feel your pain 🫂
In other news though - the Grieshaverse - sell the concept to me?! I've tried once and didn't get into them, but clearly you enjoy them so maybe I should try again?!
I actually read the books first and then got into the Netflix show. The two a very different though - the show sort of condenses a couple of the books together which might make things a bit confusing. My son didn’t like the books at first and got into it via the show 🤣
Oh gosh, I hear you on the small hours panic attacks. Mine came this morning at about 2:30, and sent me into such a flat spin I had to get up and go downstairs, and do something for an hour and a half. I'm in what is laughingly known as a 'career pivot', which means I have no income at the moment, so the panic can really get its claws into me.
I'm glad you had a good duvet day! It's good to know what our recovery needs are.
Sending love and calming thoughts your way. Things are never as bad in the morning are they.
Thank you! Things are never as bad as they seem in the dead of night!
If my Garmin is anything to go by, my heart rate spikes just before one of these episodes, so I wake up with my brain confused as to why my body is panicking, and it just lands on whatever is front-of-mind and decides that it's a Major Disaster. Honestly, it could be anything, including relitigating decades-old embarrassments or imaging the nightmare of what would happen if my husband died. (My husband is very fit and not at any elevated risk of dying.)
From this, I can only conclude that brains and bodies are very stupid.
Sounds like a perfect duvet day. Unfortunately it is because of the early morning panic attack.
Making socks for your son is such a nice gesture.
Enjoy your day. I am off to shovel snow and then work on my swatch for a new sweater
I returned from a shortish vacation late on Wednesday night to very cold weather and a dusting of snow. Thursday morning I expected to jump
Out of bed and begin a long list of chores I’ve been needing to tackle ~ however my body felt slow cold and sluggish so I gifted myself a day in bed! It did wonders for my cold exhausted body, so I’m following suit one more day and just laying low and giving my mind & body what it needs!
I think you get to an age when you have to listen to what your body is telling you. I worked in a school and every holiday I thought I would get up early and do this that and the other. No my body said you will sleep in and have a slow day. Now been retired 5 years and last week it did again so obviously I'd done too much that week. The Quiet ADHD club is very interesting. I've been wondering about myself lately. Some of the points rang true with me. The wanting to please people but being let down. It doesn't matter what I do it doesn't seem enough. The friend that comes to stay and drinks white wine wants cider. Next time you buy cider. No! They want white wine. Another wants salads. You buy salads and they want vegetables. Yes I get resentful and don't look forward to having people stay. I put it down to past experiences but maybe not!
I am so sorry Louise, the lunch can be rearranged maybe even better than ever 😁.
My daughter Sarah, was ace at duvet days, she knew when she had had enough and holed up. Her & her husband even developed there Christmas duvet days into a fine art. It is one of my lovely memories of her.
Ebby will be getting a new friend but can enjoy some spoiling from you and vice versa. Get better soon ❤️❤️
A 3am panic attack is utterly horrible and I'm very glad you've cancelled plans to have a duvet day and take care of yourself. Every time I see lovely Emily post about spending ten minutes doing something for herself I do a happy jig inside – you know how I love the power of ten minutes! And thank you SO much for sharing the Quiet ADHD Club, I'm so happy with the first week. I visited my inner wise woman in my morning meditation today and she told me 'You're right where you're supposed to be, doing exactly what you're supposed to be doing.' I'd say that goes for you under the duvet today too x
What’s made me smile: making progress on my Saltaire scarf, a foggy dog walk (quiet and peaceful), a simple garden centre lunch with my hubby and visitors soon to arrive for the weekend.
I suffer from migraines, fortunately less so in more recent years since I’ve retired. I have found that if I get overtired, stressed, or feel out of sorts its
indicating I need a duvet day and can sometimes prevent a full blown migraine. Ebby will enjoy snuggling with you.
Ugh those 3am wake ups are awful. Glad you were able to make a quiet day of it. I like the idea that the universe has other plans to allow me to relax when I have those horrible night sleeps!